No one wants to fаіl, but fоr ѕоmе оf people the idea of failing feels so frightening that their fear of fаіlurе еxсееdѕ their wish to succeed. Life is very uncertain for everyone. No one knows for sure whether they will be successful in a particular job or activity or whether a particular relationship will work out. Everyone knows this on some level, but most people learn to live with it as an inevitable part of life. However, for some people the uncertainty and fear of not knowing if they will succeed can become a real source of suffering. They may even start to feel that it would be better to fail, and know that they had failed, than to have to continue to live in fear and uncertainty. When it is intense the fear of failure can even lead people to consciously or unconsciously sabotage their own efforts to succeed.
A traditional counselling style approach to working with fear of failure would involve discussing the feelings that you are currently experiencing and identifying realistic goals. This can sometimes lead to a greater understanding of those feelings, and greater ability to deal with the fear, but unfortunately understanding our feelings and knowing what we should do often doesn’t solve the problem. The fundamental problem for people suffering from fear of failure is that their mind is out of control – their fear of failure is in control of their thoughts. It feels to them as though their mind is stuck in a continuous loop of fear and worry that they are powerless to break out of, no matter what they think, say or do. Brain Working Recursive Therapy provides a unique and very powerful method for breaking that loop of fear and worry, and changing the client’s automatic response patterns in such a way as to fundamentally change their perception of themselves and the situation that they find themselves in. When the fear of failure is specific to a particular situation this can generally be accomplished in one or two sessions. However, if the fear of failure is more generalised and has become part of a general lack of self-confidence, affecting many different areas of life, level 2 BWRT therapy would be more appropriate which requires a minimum of four sessions. This is still a very quick form of therapy compared to traditional counselling or psychotherapy which often takes place over many months.
PLEASE NOTE: I am no longer working as a therapist. However, I remain a student and supporter of BWRT - an excellent therapy with the power to help people to make personal changes swiftly and effectively. I am keeping this site live in order to help people to discover BWRT, and to share my thoughts and reflections about BWRT from time to time. To Find a therapist please visit the website of the Institute of Brainworking Recursive Therapy